Wednesday, 1 January 2014

20 Things To Let Go Of In Order To Be Happy


Well frankly, the title explains it all - 20 Things To Let Go Of In Order To Be Happy! I got inspiration for this post somewhere on the internet, although I really can not remember where from as it was a while ago. However, I thought this post would be perfect for the start of 2014 so have been saving it. Here is what I think could be so true for many of us and I really hope it helps! I hold my hands up I really do need to let go in order to be happy :) - especially certain things in my relationship. So here we go.

1. Approval Of Others

Who really give a sh*t what other people think? Well lets face it, we all do. But if we make a decision and are happy with that, what does it really matter what other people's opinions are. They can not dictate the way we live ours lives. Do what we want for ourselves :)

2. Anger/Resentment

Anger will eat at you from the inside. Learn how to make peace with those who have wronged you in the past however big or small. This isn’t about letting the other person off the hook, but it is about letting that anger go and coming to terms with what has happened can not be re-done. I don't really ever forgive or forget - if someone hurts or upsets me then gosh I hang it over their head forever. I really need to stop this a like I said it will eat you from the inside :(

“Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.”

3. Negative Body Image

There is only one person’s opinion you should be concerned with when it comes to your body and that is you! No one person determines what the 'correct' body type is. Many of us have seen the recent magazine covers that are appalling to celebrities, the whole society think that being skinny is the only way you can be pretty. It isn't right! If you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are healthy, then that should be the only thing that matters. Do not let others tell you that you’re not beautiful because if you believe you are, then you are. It is what is inside that counts after all :)

4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner

There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so throw your check list out the window. In life, what prevents us from moving forward is looking at the perfect image of a partner we concoct in our minds. The sooner you realise there isn’t one perfect person out there for you, the better off you will be.

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyse. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

5. Perfect Life

Just like there is no perfect partner, there is also not a perfect life. I believe in order to get what you want then eventually you will get just that if you work hard enough! There may be bumps on the way and it may take a little while longer than you wish. But it will happen one day :) It is up to you to create the best possible world for yourself.

6. You’re Going To Be Rich

Ha, well we all wish. I spend every day wishing I had all the money in the world, to be able to buy what I want. But unfourtently it doesn't happen like that. We aren't all able to be millionaire after all! I just need to be realistic, stop wasting money, saving up etc! One day I will be able to afford the things I want if I work hard enough, just like the 'perfect life'.

7. The Idea That Good Fortune Will Arrive At Your Doorstep

This again goes with the previous two - You cannot take a back seat in life and expect things to happen for you. Appreciate the life you live, and be grateful for what you have. Value each minute of every day. Live like there’s no tomorrow, and make the most out of any situation.

8. Excuses

Make no time for excuses. You want to work out, but you don’t have the time? Wake up early and get your gym on. Excuses are only rationalizations that make you feel better about yourself for not doing something you want/need to be doing. You desire results? Stop bitching, and start doing.

I soooo need to remember this one every time I am feeling lazy! - pure motivation for me right here

9. Thoughts Of Your Ex

We have all done it at some point, don't even try to deny it. But if you do just think that person is your ex for a reason. If you are going to think of him or her at all, try and think only about the lessons the experience taught you. Do not linger on any old feelings, as this will only prevent you from being happy with someone else in the future. I always think what a lucky escape, and if you still feel you love that person - then go fight for what you feel instead of wasting time trying to find someone else. It wouldn't be fair to find someone new if you have feelings for your ex.

10. Stubbornness

My worst habit. I know it’s hard to admit, but sometimes we just need to give in. I constantly argue until I am proven right, no matter what the cost or how severe the arguement - sometimes even when I know I am wrong.

11. Procrastination

I see many posts of people who don't want to do uni work or anything and end up 'procrastinating' - just as I do with house work. But really, if we just got it done when it needed to be done it would not be as hard as you think and saves time worrying about it all too.

12. Your Baggage

Been hurt in a previous relationship? Most of us probably have been. But carrying those negative thoughts and assuming all men are the same doesn't help the situation. No two people are the same, so it is unfair to judge depending on your past.

13. Negativity

What you put out into the universe will come back to you, so change the way you think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as a glass half empty, but rather, half full. You have so much to be grateful for, if only you took a moment to appreciate it. Anything is possible in the mind of a positive thinker.

14. Judgemental Thoughts

Why do people feel the need to constantly worry about what is going on in other people’s lives? If we spent as much time worrying about our own behaviours as we do worrying about those of others, our lives would be a whole lot more meaningful. We have no idea what is going on in another person’s life, so who are we to pass judgement on the way they act? Even though I share my life on here, there is still plenty I do not share - stuff that no one knows. Yet they judge me because I am not a size 8 or whatever reason it may be. It is silly, it has no affect to them about me. Just as I wouldn't judge someone especially a stranger I know nothing about. Like celebrities, yes their stories are all over the news but you don't know the real full true story, so let them be!

15. Jealousy

Stop envying others and learn to appreciate what we have - the key to happiness. Everyone’s life is unique; we have certain things to offer that others cannot. When we act in a jealous manner, all we do is bring negative feelings into our lives. Nothing to gain from this behaviour, besides horrible feeling within ourselves.

16. Insecurity

I always feel insecure, every day about every little thing. Low self-esteem for so many reasons. But those lucky people who have high levels of self-esteem tend to be happier, according to surveys. They accept who they are and work it every day of their lives. They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride and give off positive vibes. This is how I would love to be, happy within my self and I am learning to be that way which has proven to better my mood. Shall we all give it a go?

17. Depending On Others For Happiness

At the end of the day, the only person you can count on 100 percent of the time is yourself. Especially in a relationship, you depend on that person for everything including happiness. But like me, my boyfriend isn't really a soppy git that I wish his was. So I have decided rather than getting upset because he won't buy me flowers that I will just buy myself some - making my own happiness :)

18. The Past

Stop living in the past, if you hadn't realised time is going really fast! There is no point in dwelling on mistakes already made. I should know as I have made some big ones when I was younger. I look at them as if I learnt lessons and moved forward. Since then, I learnt to better myself and won't make them mistakes again. Sh*t happens and not much you can do about it now besides move forward.

19. The Need For Control

I am a complete control freak when it comes to organising things, making the boyfriend do things etc. It needs to stop as I have realised you just need to let things be. Certainly controlling things hasn't worked out in the past for me, so here is to seeing where things take me this year.

20. Expectations

Expectations need to be realistic. If you set thing that are unrealistic then you will just be disappointed if they do not happen. Anything extra on top of expectations would just be a bonus :) I for example, sat down on New Years Eve and wrote a list of things I want to do this year, looked at prices and looked at what was realistic. I have set many things that will be possible thankfully to my mum :)

I think these are all very valid ways for myself to improve my mood, positivity and how I look at things. :)

I will leave on this note here:

To realise the value of ONE YEAR.
ask a student who failed a grade

To realise the value of ONE MONTH.
ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby

To realise the value of ONE WEEK.
ask the editor of a weekly newspaper

To realise the value of ONE DAY.
ask the person who was born on February 29th

To realise the value of ONE HOUR.
ask the lovers who are waiting to meet

To realise the value of ONE MINUTE.
ask a person who missed the train

To realise the value of ONE SECOND.
ask a person who just avoided an accident

To realise the value of ONE MILLISECOND.
ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics

It just kind of shows really how important every moment of your life is and how we need to appreciate time by spending it doing things with love with people with life whilst being happy. :) Two of these statements hit home to me, as I had Corey 6 weeks premature and my anniversary is on February 29th.


Obviously please do not read into this post too much, if it offends you sorry and I am not suggesting in any way this is you or what you should do. I just feel some of these will help me to have a more positive outlook on life and hopefully have a better year in 2014 :)

Love, Yummy Mummy xo


1 comment :

  1. Great post!! I definitely need to try and get rid of things like negativity, insecurity, jealousy etc. The quote at the end is brilliant too, and so true!



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